Empty Seats Are Better Than the Wrong Company

We’ve all been guilty at one point or another of keeping the wrong company. Sometimes we hold on to people because we’re afraid of being alone. Sometimes we settle for relationships that we know aren’t good for us because we’ve become comfortable with them. And sometimes, we simply don’t realize how much the wrong people are affecting the direction of our lives until we’ve already gone too far down the wrong road.

I learned the hard way many, many years ago that it is most definitely better to have empty seats than to fill them with the wrong people.

An empty seat may feel lonely for a season, but the wrong company can cost you far more than loneliness ever will.

The people we surround ourselves with matter.

The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’”

Wrong company can corrupt what God is trying to build in our lives. It can pull us in directions we were never meant to go. It can make us compromise things we once stood firmly on. It can cause us to accept things we never should have accepted and settle for things that are far less than what God intended for us.

Sometimes the wrong people don't just influence our decisions—they influence our vision.

They can taint our lives to the point that we can no longer clearly see what is right in front of our faces. We become so accustomed to what we've accepted and settled for that we don't recognize that there could be something better waiting for us.

And sometimes, what is right in front of us is so much better than what we've convinced ourselves we have to settle for.

That's why we have to be careful about who gets a seat at our table, who gets access to our hearts, and who gets to speak into our lives.

Not everyone who wants to walk beside you is meant to walk with you.

Not everyone who has been part of your past is supposed to be part of your future.

And sometimes, letting someone go isn't a failure. Sometimes it's obedience.

There may be seasons when God allows certain seats around us to become empty because He is making room for something better. He may be removing people, relationships, habits, or influences that have been keeping us from becoming who He created us to be.

We don't always understand the empty seats.

We may even grieve them.

But an empty seat is still better than giving the wrong person a place that belongs to someone—or something—God has chosen for our lives.

We need to be living our best lives with God by our side rather than living our worst lives with the wrong people by our side.

And here's what I've learned: what God has for us is so much better than anything this world can offer.

The peace He brings is like no other.

The comfort He gives is something no person can completely give us.

There is a security that comes from knowing that God is with you—even when you don't know what tomorrow holds. There is something incredibly comforting about finally letting go of the need to control everything and allowing God to take the wheel of your life.

That feeling of “I'm home” that comes from being where God wants you to be is better than anything I've ever experienced.

I've spent enough time going my own way to know that my way isn't better.

I've spent enough time with the wrong people to know that being surrounded by people doesn't mean you aren't lonely.

And I've learned that having an empty seat beside you is far better than having someone sitting there who is pulling you away from God and the life He has for you.

So if you find yourself in a season where some seats around you are empty, don't automatically assume something is wrong.

Maybe God is protecting you.

Maybe He's redirecting you.

Maybe He's making room.

Maybe He's teaching you that you don't have to fill every empty space just because you're afraid of being alone.

Sometimes empty seats are God's way of making room for better things.

And if you don't have that peace with God yet—if you haven't experienced what it feels like to truly surrender your life to Him—don't you want it too?

Because a life lived with God and for God is really living.

I mean really, truly living.

I've been more alive with God than I ever was without Him.

And I wouldn't trade that life for anything.

So be careful who you allow to fill the seats in your life.

Choose people who draw you closer to God, not further away from Him.

And if a seat has to remain empty for a while, let it.

An empty seat is better than the wrong company.

And sometimes, that empty seat is exactly where God wants it to be.