Forgiving the Inexcusable...

There are some quotes that stop you in your tracks, and this is one of them.

Forgiveness sounds beautiful when we're talking about minor offenses. It's much harder when we're talking about real hurt. The kind of hurt that leaves scars. The kind that changes relationships, breaks trust, and leaves you asking, "How could they do that?"

If you've lived very long, you've been hurt by someone. Maybe it was a friend. Maybe it was a family member. Maybe it was someone you trusted completely. The details may be different, but the pain is something we all understand.

I've learned that forgiveness is one of the hardest things God asks us to do.

Not because we don't know we're supposed to forgive, but because sometimes the hurt feels too deep. We replay conversations in our minds. We relive disappointments. We carry wounds long after the moment has passed. Sometimes we convince ourselves that holding on to the hurt somehow protects us from being hurt again.

But the truth is, bitterness doesn't protect us—it imprisons us.

Over the years, I've had moments when I had to choose forgiveness even when every emotion in me wanted to hold on to the offense. I've had to remind myself that forgiveness is not saying what happened was okay. It's not pretending the hurt didn't exist. It's not giving someone permission to continue hurting you.

Forgiveness is choosing to release the debt.

It's placing the situation into God's hands and trusting Him to handle what I cannot.

As a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend, and simply as a person trying to walk faithfully with Christ, I've learned that relationships can be messy. People will disappoint you. They will say things they shouldn't say. They will make choices you don't understand. Sometimes they'll never apologize. Sometimes they'll never acknowledge the pain they caused.

That's when forgiveness becomes less about them and more about your obedience to God.

When I think about all the grace God has extended to me, it changes my perspective. There have been countless times in my life when I didn't deserve His mercy. Times when I failed. Times when I made mistakes. Times when I fell short of who He created me to be.

Yet God never turned His back on me.

He didn't make me earn His forgiveness.

He didn't keep a running list of my failures.

Through Jesus Christ, He offered forgiveness freely.

And if God can forgive me for all the ways I've fallen short, how can I refuse to extend forgiveness to others?

That question isn't always comfortable, but it's necessary.

The older I get, the more I realize that forgiveness is not usually a one-time event. It's often a daily decision. Sometimes you forgive someone, only to wake up the next day feeling the hurt all over again. In those moments, you choose forgiveness again.

And again.

And again.

Not because the pain magically disappeared, but because you've decided that Christ's example matters more than your feelings.

One of the greatest lessons I've learned is that forgiveness doesn't free the other person nearly as much as it frees you.

The moment you stop carrying the weight of bitterness, resentment, and anger, something changes. The burden becomes lighter. The wound begins to heal. The peace of God has room to work in your heart.

I've also learned that forgiveness and trust are not the same thing. Some relationships can be restored. Others require healthy boundaries. Wisdom and forgiveness often walk hand in hand.

But regardless of the outcome, God never gives us permission to hold on to unforgiveness.

As Christians, we're called to something different from the world. We're called to love when it's difficult. To show grace when it's undeserved. To forgive when it feels impossible.

Not because people deserve it.

But because we serve a Savior who forgave us when we didn't deserve it either.

The cross is the greatest example of forgiveness the world has ever seen. Jesus looked at those who mocked Him, beat Him, and crucified Him and still chose forgiveness.

If He can do that for me, then surely He can help me forgive those who have hurt me.

Maybe today you're carrying a wound that you've held on to for years. Maybe every time you think you've moved past it, the pain resurfaces. Maybe you've been waiting for an apology that never came.

Can I encourage you to give that hurt to God?

Not because it's easy.

Not because it's fair.

But because your freedom is worth it.

Forgiveness doesn't change the past, but it does keep the past from controlling your future.

And sometimes the most powerful testimony of God's work in our lives isn't what we've overcome—it's who we've chosen to forgive.

After all, every single one of us is living proof that God specializes in forgiving the inexcusable.

(picture is from Precept Ministries)

Where Do You Go When Life Gets Hard?

One simple verse, but it says so much.

In Acts chapter 4, Peter and John had just been arrested because they were boldly preaching about Jesus. They were questioned, threatened, and warned to stop speaking His name. What should have been a reason to become fearful only strengthened their resolve.

Then verse 23 tells us something important:

"When they were released, they went to their friends..."

After everything they had endured, they knew exactly where to go.

They went to people who shared their faith.

They went to people who would understand.

They went to people who would pray with them and encourage them.

That challenges me to ask myself a question: Where do I go when life gets hard?

When I'm discouraged, overwhelmed, or facing uncertainty, do I isolate myself? Do I try to carry every burden alone? Or do I seek out the people God has placed in my life for encouragement and support?

I've learned that some of the greatest blessings God gives us are faithful friends and family members who point us back to Him. They may not have all the answers, but they can pray with us, listen to us, and remind us that we're not walking through life's struggles alone.

There have been seasons in my life when I desperately needed that kind of support. Times when circumstances felt heavy, when decisions were difficult, or when I simply needed someone to remind me that God was still in control. Looking back, I can see how God used others to strengthen my faith when I was weary.

Peter and John didn't return to their friends to seek pity. They returned to share what God had done and to join together in prayer. The very next verses show believers lifting their voices to God with confidence and faith.

What a reminder for us today.

We weren't created to walk this journey alone. God designed us for fellowship, encouragement, and community. When challenges come—and they will—we need people around us who will help us keep our eyes on Christ instead of our circumstances.

So today, I'm thankful for the people God has placed in my life. The ones who pray, encourage, listen, and walk beside me through both the joys and the struggles.

And I'm reminded that when life gets difficult, the best place to run is not away from God's people, but toward them.

Because sometimes the strength we need comes through the very people God has placed in our path.

Friends Who Stay...

Friends Who Stay...

Life is full of relationships. Some people come and go, some stay for a season, and a precious few remain through it all. If you've ever had a genuine friend—one who celebrates your victories, walks beside you through your struggles, and tells you the truth even when it's hard—then you know what a gift that friendship truly is.

A genuine friend doesn't just show up when life is easy. They stand beside you when life is messy. They listen when you need to talk, encourage you when you're discouraged, and pray for you when you don't have the words yourself. Their loyalty isn't based on convenience or circumstances. It's rooted in love, trust, and a sincere desire to see you thrive.

The Bible reminds us of the value of true friendship: "A friend loves at all times..." (Proverbs 17:17a). Real friends aren't perfect, but they are present. They offer grace when we fail, wisdom when we're confused, and support when we feel alone.

As I look back over my life, I can think of a handful of people who have been that kind of friend. They were there during celebrations, but they were also there during disappointments, uncertainties, and heartaches. They didn't disappear when life became difficult. Instead, they checked in, offered encouragement, prayed, and reminded me that I wasn't walking alone.

Those friendships remind me of God's love for us. Just as a faithful friend stands beside us through life's ups and downs, God never leaves us nor forsakes us. Sometimes He uses the people He has placed in our lives to be His hands and feet, offering comfort, wisdom, and support exactly when we need it most.

In a world where many relationships can feel shallow or temporary, faithful friends are a treasure. True friendship is not measured by how often we talk or how many years we've known each other. It's measured by faithfulness, trust, and a genuine desire to see one another grow and succeed. Those are the friendships worth investing in and cherishing.

Today, I thank God for the amazing friends He has placed in my life. Each and every one of them holds a special place in my heart. I'm honored that they are my friends. I'm also honored to be their friend. My cup is running over because of God's goodness to me in bringing them into my life. What a huge blessing they are. I cherish every moment I've had with them so far and look forward to many more moments with them in the future. I'm so thankful that we know how much we mean to one another. 

If you have friends who have stood by you through thick and thin, make sure they know how much they mean to you. Friendships like that are rare, valuable, and truly one of God's blessings.

Also, ask yourself: Am I encouraging, supporting, praying for, and walking alongside those God has placed in my life? A faithful friend is one of life's greatest blessings, and sometimes God calls us to be that blessing for someone else.

Sometimes, all it takes is one faithful friend to make a world of difference.

Loyalty Matters...

Loyalty Matters...

Loyalty is one of those things you don’t fully understand until you’ve lived long enough to see both sides of it. You learn quickly that not everyone who is around you is truly for you, and not every smile comes with good intentions. That’s why loyalty matters so much—it’s not just about who stays, but who stands with you when it would’ve been easier to walk away.

Real loyalty shows up in the quiet moments. It’s the check-in when nothing is wrong. It’s the support when no one is watching. It’s people choosing to speak your name in rooms you’re not in, in a good way. Those are the people worth holding close.

But the highest form of loyalty is God-kind of loyalty. The kind that doesn’t change when you change. The kind that doesn’t leave when you fall short. God’s loyalty isn’t based on performance or perfection—it’s rooted in love, grace, and covenant. Even when people walk away, God remains steady. That kind of faithfulness sets the standard for how we should strive to love and show up for others.

And just as important as recognizing loyalty is learning to give it back. The people who consistently show up, support you, and protect your name deserve the same in return. Loyalty isn’t one-sided—it’s built in trust, respect, and consistency over time.

As life changes, circles get smaller. Some people fade, some drift, and some choose different paths. But the ones who remain—the ones who have proven themselves over time—those are the ones who matter most. Don’t take them for granted.

Look out for the people who look out for you. Stand by the ones who stand by you. And remember the example set by God’s unwavering faithfulness as the model for how we love others well.

Because at the end of the day, loyalty isn’t just a value—it’s a bond. And those bonds are forever—something to be deeply valued, protected, and never taken lightly.

Graduation Pictures with Family & Friends...

We had fun getting pictures with family and friends after the graduation ceremony.

Life Stops For No One...

Today was another reminder that life doesn’t stop for anyone or anything.

A friend of mine is walking through a difficult season with both of her kids, who are elite athletes, navigating challenges that come with that level of competition. At the same time, our son has been dealing with severe sinus congestion and an earache—caused by his allergies.

Then there’s my mom, who recently had a total knee replacement and is really struggling with the pain. Helping her through recovery and rehab is going to take a lot.

We’ve also been helping and supporting a friend whose parents are hoarders as she tries to relocate them, but we’ve had to step back for now because of everything going on with my mom. And another friend is facing multiple health concerns with her husband.

It just keeps coming.

Life doesn’t slow down. One thing hits, you handle it, and then something else follows. It’s constant, and it can feel relentless.

But at the end of the day, what matters most is how you respond. Your attitude in the middle of it all makes the difference. You meet life head-on, stay steady, and refuse to be taken out by the weight of it. Strength, focus, and determination carry you through—even when it’s hard, even when it doesn’t let up.