A Godly Wife Begins with a Godly Heart...
There are countless opinions today about what a woman should be.
Culture tells women to chase success, independence, status, or approval. Others reduce a woman's worth to appearances or accomplishments. But God's Word paints a much more beautiful picture.
A godly wife isn't defined by perfection.
She is defined by her pursuit of Christ.
Scripture says it this way:
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." (Proverbs 31:30)
God isn't looking for a woman who has it all together. He's looking for a woman whose heart belongs to Him.
As I looked over this list, I smiled—and then I laughed a little. Not because I disagree with it, but because I know just how often I fall short.
I've been married to Scot for nearly twenty years, and if there's anyone who knows my flaws, it's him. I'm not always patient. I don't always say the right thing. I get frustrated. I make mistakes. Sometimes I let stress get the best of me. I have to apologize. I have to ask for forgiveness.
I'm far from being the "perfect Proverbs 31 wife."
But every day I ask God to make me a little more like Jesus than I was the day before.
That's the goal.
Not perfection.
Faithfulness.
She Loves God Above All Things
Everything starts here.
Before I'm a wife.
Before I'm a mother.
Before I'm a business owner...
I'm first a daughter of the King.
I've learned that when I neglect my relationship with the Lord, every other relationship suffers. I become less patient, less gracious, and much more focused on myself than on serving others.
The closer I stay to Christ, the better wife I become—not because I'm trying harder, but because He's changing my heart.
She Loves Her Husband and Children
Love isn't merely a feeling—it's a daily choice.
Marriage isn't always easy. Raising children certainly isn't easy. There are seasons of joy, exhaustion, celebration, and disappointment.
As Scot and I approach twenty years of marriage, I can honestly say our marriage hasn't been sustained because we're perfect people. It's been sustained because God has been faithful.
There have been times when I've needed far more grace than I've deserved, and Scot has extended it anyway. I'm thankful that our marriage has always been built on forgiveness rather than keeping score.
She Shows Self-Control
If I'm honest, this is one God continues to work on in me.
Sometimes I react before I pray.
Sometimes I speak before I think.
Sometimes my emotions try to lead instead of the Holy Spirit.
Thankfully, God's mercies are new every morning.
He's still teaching me that self-control isn't about willpower—it's about surrender.
She Is the Keeper of the Home
This doesn't mean my house is always spotless.
Anyone who's dropped by unexpectedly can probably testify to that!
It means I want our home to be a place where people feel welcomed, loved, encouraged, and where Christ is honored.
A peaceful home isn't created by perfect decorating or perfect housekeeping.
It's created by people who continually choose love, forgiveness, and grace.
She Is a Servant
Serving doesn't always come naturally.
Most of the time I'd rather be served.
These days, more often than not, I'm tired.
There's lots of times that I'm selfish.
Yet Jesus continually reminds me that greatness in His Kingdom looks very different than greatness in the world.
Every opportunity to serve is really an opportunity to become more like Him.
She Is Grateful
One lesson God keeps teaching me is gratitude.
It's easy to notice what's wrong.
It takes intentionality to notice what's right.
When I stop and count my blessings, I realize just how much God has done.
A husband who loves Jesus.
A son who loves the Lord.
A growing family business.
A home filled with memories.
God has been incredibly good to me.
She Is Modest
Modesty isn't just about what we wear.
It's about humility.
It's about pointing people toward Christ instead of ourselves.
The older I get, the less concerned I am with impressing people and the more concerned I am with pleasing God.
That's a much better way to live.
She Is Kind
Kindness is something the world desperately needs.
I don't always get it right.
Many times my words are sharper than they should be.
Sometimes I'm impatient.
But God faithfully convicts me, softens my heart, and reminds me that people are drawn to grace far more than criticism.
Progress, Not Perfection
If this list feels overwhelming, remember this:
God isn't looking for perfect wives.
If He were, none of us would qualify.
He's looking for women whose hearts are fully surrendered to Him.
I'm still learning.
I'm still growing.
I'm still failing at times.
And I'm still amazed that God's grace meets me every single day.
One of the greatest gifts God has given me is a husband who extends that same grace. Scot has loved me through my strengths and my weaknesses, celebrated my victories, forgiven my failures, and continually pointed me back to Christ. I thank God often for the man He gave me, because he reminds me what unconditional love looks like.
Being a godly wife isn't about checking every box on a list.
It's about waking up every day and saying, "Lord, make me more like You today than I was yesterday."
That's a prayer God delights in answering.
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