Tim has been blessed to have a coach like this in the sport that he is doing now. His coaches resolve to help his team be the best they can possibly be in such a positive way has been huge for Tim. He's had such negative coaches throughout the years and it has been a breath of fresh air to have a coach that really is in his corner and is all about what is best for Tim. He's not ego/pride driven and that has been such a huge thing for Tim.
Coaches that are consumed with their own ego's, that make decisions about their students/team based on their own pride, are not coaches that you want for your kids or even yourself. They will break you down and tear you apart just because of their own ego/pride. You might ask, How do you know? Because we have lived it with coaches in the other sport that Tim used to do.
The Bible tells us that PRIDE GOES BEFORE A FALL! Believe me when I tell you that it might take some time but that fall will happen if you are with a coach that is full of ego and is prideful. It's unfortunate that the coaches aren't the ones taking the falls but their students/team are the ones that take the falls for their ego/pride. There's no consistency of winning with a coach of that nature. They talk a good game but, in the end, being with coaches like that will result in loss over loss for the competitor/student/team. It results in a mental breakdown of the student/team overall. The biggest way, that I have seen, of how to know if a coach is falling because of their ego and pride will be by looking at how their students/team are doing overall. If only a few are winning, and they aren't consistent wins, then the win/loss ratio tells that coaches story. If there is no positive reinforcement and all you hear is negative coming out of the coaches/team/students mouth that tells the coaches story too. A competitor/team regurgitates what has been put into them by their coach. If you go into a sport with your eyes wide open and know what to look for you will know pretty quickly if you should stay or move on before you get too invested into the coach/team your kid or yourself are a part of. The signs were all there for us and we stayed longer than we ever should have in Tim's old sport.
Now, Tim's the strongest mentally that he's ever been because of his weightlifting coach. His coach focus's on the positives and not the negatives. He doesn't dwell on things but presses on. He's more about the long game and not the short game. He's doesn't tear his team apart if they go to a Meet and don't bring home medals. He focus's on how to help them make forward progress so that they can earn a medal at a Meet in the future. He doesn't dog them about what they've done wrong but praises them for what they're doing right and corrects them with positive reinforcement where needed. He's great about pulling Tim out of his comfort zone because he sees the version of Tim that Tim can't see yet.
THAT,
MY FRIENDS,
IS A GREAT COACH!!!
